The image we show people is not always what is inside of us. I’ve always come across as pretty confident and sure of myself, but I’ve not always been like this. Even now, I still have odd days where I feel insecure and overwhelmed. I have to then reMIND myself that my self-worth MINE! I have to remind myself that others probably do not see me the way I see myself when I’m having a less than positive moment(s). Chances are they see me in a positive light, and even if they don’t, then that’s perfectly fine too. Their opinion of me should not and definitely does not define me. Unless it’s a positive opinion, you shouldn’t let opinions of other people define you either.
We are all wonderful beings and need to see ourselves as such! Sometimes, our lives or things in our lives may seem less than. I hope this article helps you put things into perspective and reframe how you perceive things in a more positive light.
Does life seem to be a struggle for you? Do you feel overwhelmed and frustrated much of the time? Do you wish you could experience something better? Fortunately, you can enjoy the exciting life you deserve.
Success is available to you despite challenging circumstances. It’s important to remember, also, that your self-worth is not defined by your circumstances.
What holds you back? Take some time today to question the beliefs you hold that limit your potential. If you look at a challenging circumstance as a wall that’s impossible to climb, you need a fresh perspective. Within you is everything you need to thrive and excel. The more you question the validity of your limiting beliefs, the more success you’ll experience in your life.
Think of a circumstance in your life that you believe is preventing you from something you want. Write it down, then get ready to challenge that limiting belief. If you do, you’ll begin to move toward the success you deserve.
Use these strategies to maintain a positive self-worth, regardless of your circumstances:
- Find the cause. What is the cause of the circumstance in your life? Sometimes, limiting beliefs can serve as warning signs that help you avoid danger. What can you learn from this so that you can avoid triggering a similar situation in the future as much as possible?
- If the cause of your situation is unclear, ask friends and family for their input. Others see your life from a different perspective, and their input can be valuable in determining the root of your difficulty. However, don’t let them determine what is right or wrong for you. It’s perfectly alright to use them as a sounding board though.
- Get past the blame game. You can often be your own worst critic. Fortunately, negative self-talk often has very little basis in reality. Choose to replace the doubts of your inner critic with more productive thinking.
- Once a negative thought has taught you its intended lesson, it has served its purpose. If you choose to hold onto those negative thoughts, they will begin to form a negative self-image in your mind. Remember, what you resist, persists. This unbalanced view of your talents and strengths holds you back.
- Instead of dwelling on negative thoughts about your circumstances, learn the lesson and resolve to move on.Find out what you can do differently to avoid a repeat of your present situation. Then, when negative thoughts enter your mind, choose to replace your self-talk with productive thoughts instead.
- Cut yourself some slack. Recognize that you’re human. Everyone makes mistakes, but your attitude determines your altitude in life. You are valuable regardless of your present predicament. You are worthwhile even when you slip up or falter. Your circumstances simply provide feedback and an opportunity to learn and grow.
- Make the most of it. When you recognise that you’re valuable despite your circumstances, you’ll begin to make the most of every opportunity. Stumbling blocks you face can become stepping stones to the success you deserve, simply by changing what you focus on. I absolutely love this and hold on to this when things seem bleak. “Seem” is a good word rather than “is” or “are”, as this helps us change our perspective of whatever situation we find ourselves in.
- Instead of feeling helpless, ask yourself: “What’s great about this?” Every situation provides something of value if you look for it.
- Ask for help. Loved ones and friends often see strengths in you that go without notice. Ask them what they believe your strengths are. This is where your self-worth is found. Everyone has something of value to contribute.
- Once you recognise your unique talents, gifts, and abilities, you’ll see life in a whole new way. You’ll seek opportunities to use your talents to bless others. You’ll gain confidence that comes from conquering challenges that once made you cringe.
- Instead of allowing your circumstances to dictate who you are, you’ll make the rules!
- Live one day at a time. Despite your best efforts, some days simply provide one frustration after another. When this happens, you have a choice. You can let your circumstances defeat you, or you can choose a more positive perspective. Choose which option serves you best!
Resolve today to find your strengths, learn from your difficult circumstances, and experience the joy you were created to experience. Instead of tying your self-worth to your circumstances, choose to see things as they really are. You were created with unique talents and gifts. When you find those gifts within yourself and put them to use, you’ll know how valuable you truly are. And no matter what, you truly are valuable in every way, shape and form.